Error Parenting #9 - the personal comments mixed inside with the directions

The comments of the #9-Personal error mixed inside with the directions

Each comment or spoken opinion was added in a direction, accounts as an additional step in this direction! In other words, if your child runs in the house and you known as.

Advanced, Johnny. Stop operation, and walk. do you pass to us through this day laborer, why you did that? (very indicated in a tonality of voice agitated.)

This a report/ratio is charged with more than 3 stages, that send the contradictory messages.

1) Come on Johnny by itself is an order. However, the words being employed were not meant for him really come or go anywhere.

The operation and the walk of 2) stop is the heart of the message. However this does not indicate the child/adolescence what it can do or how to do it.

3) We pass through this day laborer communicate the relative the 'destruction of S which the majority of the children would be perceived like bad or no good (particularly once installed with a tonality of voice agitated).

4) Why made you made that invites small Johnny to believe that you ask him really a question. According to the age, it will not be developed asse' to understand that it is rhetoric question/report/ratio.

If you remember in the preceding section, we want that our directions are in 3 stages or less. Adding a comment, deposited, an opinion, or the expression of your personal destruction while giving a direction, will create a stage of addition in the communication. Though you can think that you known as only operation him stop , there are many not-verbal messages secondary-official statements, while speaking about this manner.

To add personal comments is more than right to add too many stages . Even when not envisaged, they create extra informations for your child/of adolescence to treat. Finally, the comments are foreign information on you and your destruction, and they are of adult of version speaking behind. If you would like to give the effective directions to which your child/of adolescence will not resist, it is the best to omit the comments.